Am I in or out?

I have been living the single life for quite a while. On the other side of the token, I have also been in long term, very serious relationships also. I can honestly say that I don't like either. I like having a steady, but not a live-in. So does this mean that I am in or out of the game? And what the hell is the game? Is it that mad dash to the alter, or the fun of getting that ball & chain connected, or what? The game doesn't sound all that fun to me at this point. When I was a child, I always saw myself as a business woman with a husband that lived clear across the country. We would have to commute and make dates, but we were indeed a couple. In my mind, I want the dating stage to never end. Sort of like Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell. I don't want to get complacent and set into a routine. I want the courting, and lingerie, and hotel rooms all of the time. In my experience, I have had to change the man in order to keep it going. I haven't met any man that has ever wanted to keep that going. I have noticed that most of my exes are still infatuated with me for that very reason. But watching them morph into a lump on the sofa isn't a turn on to me. Neither is growing apart but staying together because you are invested. I wonder if I can find one man who will keep the dating going with me without sleeping around, and without trying to head off to the alter. Am I asking too much?